Trusting Your Judgment and Intuition
“A man should learn to detect and watch that gleam of light which flashes across his mind from within, more than the lustre of the firmament of bards and sages… Trust thyself: every heart vibrates to that iron string.” Ralph Waldo Emerson
The DNA that makes up every individual is a complex set of variables that makes each and every one of us completely unique. It is, for that same reason then, that there is only one voice that can speak 100% accurately to us as individuals and our own, very specific needs.
Who’s voice is it?
Our own, of course.
Why is it then that so often, we listen intently – sometimes hanging on their words and opinions – to those around us. Those who we perceive to be smarter or more successful. After all, they must know something we don’t, right?
You’re both right and wrong.
They do know something that you don’t.
They listen to themselves. They trust themselves. It’s a defining trait of all successful people and a sign of emotional intelligence.
What they don’t know however, is what’s right for you – ‘what you should do’ – more than you, yourself do. Only you know that answer.
Substituting or valuing other’s opinions more than your own – or worse instead of your own – is a classic lack of self confidence symptom that will tirelessly hold you back from achieving the success that is rightfully yours.
“By banishing doubt and trusting your intuitive feelings, you clear a space for the power of intention to flow through.” Wayne Dyer
Often I hear from people that they simply don’t believe they have that strong inner voice that guides on what to do. But trust me, it’s there.
Have you ever said “I had a hunch that…” or been standing in a situation a get a ‘gut feeling’ you’re not supposed to be there, that something bad is going to happen?
No matter what you call it, it’s that inside voice that is personal only to you and your life experiences that is indeed guiding you. The reason that we don’t hear it all the time is simple…we’re not listening. And that’s the problem.
“Instinct is untaught ability.” Alexander Bain
So how do we learn to listen?
In my opinion one of the best answers comes from Miranda at Creating Positive Change…
First, you need to realize that this inner voice is quiet, small and familiar. It doesn’t shout from the rooftops, or hit you over the head. You only notice it when you are still and receptive. Think of it as an ‘aha’ moment, a moment when you just get it.
In our high-stress society, our minds hardly get a chance to relax.
Most of us are bombarded with so much information that it is sometimes a challenge to mentally shut down long enough to fall asleep at night.
It is important to learn that our minds need to be taken care of as much as our bodies. Letting your mind soar with possibilities and just imagining for awhile is one of the best ways of caring for it.
Doing this will help you discover a whole new world. Things you have never taken the time to see or experience will open to become some of the most powerful and wonderful experiences of your life. Perhaps they will be things that cannot be explained.
Yet when you experience their beauty and magnificence and begin to believe in what they are, you’ll learn to trust with your heart instead of using your head so much. The ability to figure out our dreams and aspirations can be as simple as trusting what is deep within us.
When developing intuition and empathy, we must learn to view things from many angles. Even things we consider to be a coincidence may in fact be a message our intuitive mind is trying to relay to us. Look for the meaning in these occurrences.
It is said there is no such thing as coincidence.
Ultimately, it our own responsibility to recognize when we are being inspired. Act on your instinct and do not ignore what you know to be true deep inside. When something feels right (or wrong), act on what you feel to be true.
It may take some time to develop this trust in ourselves.
We are all so used to over-thinking things. Just take it as it comes. Try evaluating a situation before you respond to it. Don’t over-analyze, but just see how you feel. Usually, your first instinct is the right one.
Using your intuition when dealing with big problems can be a little intimidating, especially when there is a lot on the line. Try to break through that fear and really trust your gut. You’ll be amazed at how things turn out. Usually it’s not the way you would have handled it had you used your logical side.